An Affirmation...

When you think about sex and intimacy, have you ever quietly thought to yourself, “ I should know how to…”or “ I should be more…”?

“I don’t want them to know…”

“If they knew this about me than they would…”

So on and so forth.

Can I tell you something?

YOU are worthy of love, desire and belonging. By just being you.

Cultivating deeper intimacy and increasing pleasure in your life is not about forcing yourself to like something or embody the things others like. It’s not about conforming to be something or someone you’re not.

It’s about revealing parts of yourself and letting yourself be known. It’s about feeling seen. Even when we’re at war with shame, doubt, pain and fear telling us otherwise.

What Does Intimacy Mean To You?

When you hear the word “intimacy”, what comes to your mind? Is it sex? Feelings of being really close with someone or something? Maybe it spurs thoughts about a specific person or time from your past?

Now, how do these thoughts make you feel? (Very cliche, I know.)

Everyone reading this will likely have a different reaction to this question based on numerous different variables personal to them. But, we likely feel the same about one thing— talking about intimacy can be uncomfortable. And in my experience, people don’t generally want to talk about things that make them feel uncomfortable. 

Does this describe you and your experience? Have you avoided talking about intimacy to also avoid the discomfort it brings up for you? Has this prevented you from truly knowing who you are and how you connect with others?

If so, you’re not alone. Also, what if I told you it wasn’t your fault?

It can be hard to start a conversation that takes us to the deepest, most vulnerable parts of who we are. But, could that be the epicenter of where change and healing originates? As a therapist, I’ve chosen to focus on intimacy therapy and issues involving sexual health because I believe in the healing powers that come from seeing all parts of ourselves.

So, what brings you here? Have you ever thought about meeting with a sex and intimacy therapist to explore how intimacy plays out for you?